Prostitution or sexual philanthropy?

Catrina, who sold her virginity for almost US$1 million

You may have heard the story of 20 year old Catarina Migliorini who just successfully auctioned off her virginity. For one night only, the Brazilian belle will relinquish her chastity to one “lucky” fella who is parting with a lot of cash for the opportunity. And why has she decided to do this? So she can raise cash to build homes for poverty-stricken families. Awww, isn’t that just precious? What a philanthropist.

Clearly the opportunities for coitus with unsullied women have become few and far between if men are prepared to pay for such an opportunity. And this isn’t the first time we hear of someone selling the ‘breaking of their hymen’ for a cash sum. Remember 18 year old Romanian Alina Percea who, in 2009, sold her virginity online for around US$13,000? Or 19 year-old “Unigirl” who sold hers for over US$35,000 the following year? Both girls said they did it to raise tuition for university. Awww, isn’t that just precious? What an ambitious pair.

Catarina’s auction has closed with an astonishingly mammoth winning bid of US$780,000!!! Who has that kind of money for sex? With a sex rookie at that? Maybe if she was a little more experienced, but still, US$780,000? I thought the economy was supposed to be tanked? There are governments out there that don’t even have US$780,000. We see you Europe! Anyway, I digress. Where was I? Oh yes, virgin vendors.

Like other “virgin vendors”, Catarina is quick to point out this isn’t prostitution. She puts it this way: “If you only do it once in your life then you are not a prostitute, just like if you take one amazing photograph it does not automatically make you a photographer.” Awww, isn’t that just precious? What a whore.

Yeah I said it. Sex in exchange for money makes you a whore. Do I have a problem with people choosing to be whores? HELL NO!! The key word there is “choosing”. It’s your life, it’s your choice. As much I loathe the expression YOLO, it’s true. You do only live once. So live your life how you want. Long as you don’t hurt others or yourself, I respect your right to do what you want with your life. So what Catarina is selling off her virginity? All power to her. It’s quite entrepreneurial actually. Most girls give it up for free at some house party…which is fine too. After all, it’s yours to do with what you wish.

What I do have a problem with, is people playing the “I’m doing it for the poor, so I’m not a prostitute” self righteousness card. Just because someone says “it’s for my tuition”, we excuse them but we are quick to chastise women who sleep with wealthy men just for their money; or those like Wen, the Chinese girl who was also looking to sell her virginity for an iPhone 4 (if you’re interested, she’d probably prefer the iPhone 5 now). Remember, most prostitutes on the street have noble reasons too; kids to feed, bills to pay, breasts to enlarge. Why do we castigate them and not the “tuition sluts?” It’s all whore-rishly the same as far as I’m concerned…and that’s fine. That’s the beauty of free will.

So, well done Catarina on your desire to use your virgin money (not you Branson) to build homes for the poor…though I’m sure some of them would rather just have you ☺

Oh, I almost forgot. There was a guy on the same website as Catarina also selling his virginity in a sort of parallel auction. His winning bid was US$3,000. A little less than Catarina’s…but about US$3,000 more than I thought he’d get.

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8 comments on “Prostitution or sexual philanthropy?

  1. … Reminds me of a poem I wrote http://creativemetaphor.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/cost-of-living-increase/

    I don’t like the term whore. Not because it may not be accurate in the given context, but because it is a label that is only ever applied to women and is always a negative. No matter how many women a man sleeps with, he’s never a whore, or a slut, or if he sleeps with rich women he isnt’ a gold digger, or a prostitute.

    I have a problem with negatively labeling women for doing what men are congratulated and praised for.

    The disparity in bids only proves it: no one cares about a man’s virginity, apparently. But someone will pay over three quarters of a million for a woman’s.

    As you said, there are women who prostitute themselves solely to feed themselves and their children. I have no problem with that as an occupation, in one sense. But it’s never as simple as just putting on your uniform and going to work. The men who frequent prostitutes are very often cruel, abusive. The global sex trade is very much one of slavery, slavery of women, girls, and even boys. Humans who are not even seen as human by those who use them.

    So do I equate a girl who sells her virginity to the highest bidder as a prostitute? No. That girl will never understand the degradation, abuse and fear that these women and children live in in the vast majority of cases. There is no pimp, madame or ‘owner’ threatening her life if she tries to leave. There is no one forcing her to take whoever throws five dollars on the table and then rapes and beats her.

    She’s someone who saw a need and sold what ‘the market’ deemed to be the most valuable thing she had to sell to meet that need. I do admire her, not because of what she had to sell, but because she suckered some idiot out of $780,000 in order to help people who desperately need it. But no one labels him a whore, do they? (I wonder if it was even a guy? That would be interesting…)

    That does not mean she is better than a prostitute. It just means she’s luckier. I do think she is to be admired for what she’s doing with the money.

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    • blackdialogueblog says:

      Thank you for your comment. I never thought of it that way. The world of prostitution is indeed dark and sordid on so many levels. What this young lady is doing is prostitution but in the most fundamental use of the term. However in the real world it is in no way as hectic as prostitution.

      The world is still archaically patriarchal and equally misogynistic; as is evidenced by the negative connotations surrounding Catarina but not the guy paying $780k for partaking in the very same act. Like you said, she’s just supplying what the market is demanding. There’s no supply without demand. So, if society wants to blame someone shouldn’t it be the demand rather the supply?!

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      • I was thinking about this a few days ago, the idea of woman (or victim) blaming/shaming. And I think I have an idea as to why it’s so prevalent.

        From the point of view of the perpetrator, it’s obviously preferable to blame the victim for what happened to avoid having to take responsibility, but from the point of view of (in the case of, say, prostitution or rape) why do women also blame other women or the victim of violence against women?

        Because it creates a sense of safety. If you can say the reason someone was a victim was because they put themselves in that situation, they dressed slutty, they hung with the wrong crowd, they dared to walk outside at night… all the reasons are reasons why the blamer will never then be a victim of the same crime. Because in their mind they will never dress/act/be that way, they won’t associate with ‘those’ people…

        So yeah. It’s always easier to blame the victim, who is weaker, but also creates a sense of *safety* to blame the victim, because then it gives people a checklist of things not to do so you aren’t a victim.

        And we see it in cases like this, different but the same. There’s no ‘victim’ (except, perhaps, society?) but there’s the obvious double standard: girl sells virginity is a whore, man who buys it isn’t even thought about at all, let alone thought of negatively. It’s a very unflattering view of men as well, reduced to nothing but primal urges and incapable of controlling their desires in the presence of a woman who shows 1″ too much skin.

        This girl isn’t some man’s property (father, husband) to be considered ‘damaged goods’ because of this, nor can she be owned or controlled. She’s her own person. If this is what she wants to do, more power to her. If the result is helping those among society who need it the most, I applaud her with all my heart. If a guy wants to pay her $780,000… I think he’s rather a fool with his money, but hey, if you’ve got that much to throw around, I guess you can throw it around as you like.

        I just hope she doesn’t catch something from him.

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      • blackdialogueblog says:

        You make a good point, very philosophical as well. So essentially we blame the victim because we are in control of the things that the victim was doing at the time of the attack. The victim’s actions are internal and are our own but the attackers’ are external and beyond our control. I like your train of thought.

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  2. Good for her in my opinion. Her virginity is, after all, exactly what she wants to give away. Personally, I always felt tha would be whorish, but the older I get, eh, who cares? Good for her, she can take the money, she can keep the money, she can give it away. I don’t care. More power to her whatever she wants to do,

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  3. polymisfit says:

    Virginity is a social construct, if somebody is stupid enough to pay that kind of money for it why not *shrug* like you said her body her choices

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